successful, either you are beginning, at the middle of a project or debate, or maybe you are about completing a particular task. The level of confidence you possess will determine how far and successful you will become.
Self-confidence is simply having the knowledge and
understanding that you have a particular talent, charisma and strength in a
particular area, believing that you are capable of executing any task given to
you without any fear of failure or doubt. It is also the ability to understand
what you can do and the desire to do it with excellence to the best of your
satisfaction.
It is important to
understand that real self confidence is not thinking that you are better than
every-one else but knowing that there are some things you can do better than
every-one else.
Lack of confidence is
the major aim/reason for lack of implementation of good ideas as
those without confidence may fail or not try because they lack it and those
with it may succeed because they have it rather than because of a spontaneous
ability.
Although some people
believe that confidence has to do with a very big ego, but in actual fact, real
self confidence is humble and focused. Anyone who possesses a real self
confidence will do his or her job with excellence and not feel they have to
broadcast it to everyone else. Excellence is always recognized anywhere and at
anytime by those who knows it. Except you lack self confidence in yourself, you
don’t have to point out what you have done to anybody. Just allow your
excellence achievements speak.
Every
success-minded people need to understand these descriptions about confidence
and also know that the negative perspectives of confidence are not true. And in
reality, real self confidence is not only a good practice or quality but also
necessary for greater success. Without self confidence, we totally lack courage
to move forward, try out new things and also test our limits; also lack of self
confidence has lead to the mediocrity of so many leaders in the world today.
Now
that we have a good understand of what confidence is and is not, let’s take a
look at how we can develop our self confidence.
Building your self confidence:
In
order to have a very good self confidence, there are several attribute that you
need to posses and they will be discussed below
·
Know who you are
If you want to
build your self-confidence, then you have to focus on improving your own life
and becoming a better you, do not try to be like anyone else or even try to
make your life more like your best friend's, your older brother's, or like
those of the celebrities you see on television. If you want to build up your confidence, then
you need to know that there will always be someone who is prettier,
knowledgeable, smarter, and richer than you, just like there will always be
someone who is less attractive, less intelligent, and less wealthy than you
are; all of this is irrelevant, just know that you are unique and this is the
first step and what is relevant is caring about advancing your own goals and
dreams.
·
Identify your talents
Do not try to be like another person, either
in your school, class, home or any where you find yourself. You should know
that there is something which you are good at. This is so because everyone is
gifted and good at something, so discover the things at which you are great at and that you can excel,
and then focus on it and develop it as your talents. It is also a good practice
to take some credit and pride in them but do not let it get to your head.
Inferiority is a
state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself
to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing,
or dance. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and
strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. Plus, adding a variety of
interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will
increase your chances of meeting compatible friends
·
Think About Your Strengths
More to knowing who
you are, identifying your talent, you should also think about your strength.
You should understand who you are and also what you are capable of achieving
within a particular period of time. This will go a long way in helping you
either in school as a student and also out of school. Ensure you take a Look at
your Achievement Log, and reflect on your recent life; think about what your
friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think
about the opportunities and threats you face.
Make sure that you
enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths.
· Preparation and Planning
Haven’t discovered what you can
do and what you cannot do, the next important factor to consider is planning
and preparation. When you plan and prepare yourself for the task ahead, you
will always excel more and achieve greater goals than when you don’t. Sometime,
people often feel less confident about new and potential situation and they run
away from an opportunity which would have definitely brought them to lime light
and this is because they failed to plan toward facing greater responsibilities.
If
you are applying for a new job or expecting to write an exam for example, you
would be wise to prepare well and plan towards the upcoming event, either by Planning
on what you would want to say in the interview or prepare on how to answer a
questions on the exam hall.
Planning
involves practicing, rehearsing, and talking with your friends about how you
would present your responses or answer.
There
are many other examples of planning and preparation and this will always help
you take control of unknown situations and the best you can do is to break down tasks into smaller sub-tasks and
plan as many as you can.
·
Take pride sometimes and enjoy your
good qualities.
As an individual, we
sometime just can’t avoid being proud of ourselves, especially when we achieve
something great. This is a good quality as it can help you build lots of self
confidence and esteem. More so, you should not only feel proud or great about your
talents or your skills, but you should also think about the things that make
your personality great. There are several personalities that you can possess
which includes your sense of humor, your sense of compassion, your ability to
listen keenly, or your ability to cope under stress. You may not think that
there's anything about your personality worth admiring, but if you dig deep,
you'll realize that you have plenty of admirable qualities. Whenever you feel
bad about one of your weaknesses, comfort yourself by thinking about all of the
positive qualities about yourself. You'll see that they far outweigh the things
you are insecure about. Always ponder on the quality ones and write them down.
You'll be on your way to building your self-confidence.
·
Bounce
back from your mistake and adopt a more positive thinking
Always
know that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities.
At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is
reality. You should also learn that life is full of bumps and huddles as you
progress. And that often these insecure feelings come and go, depending on
where we are, who we are with, the mood we're in, or how we are feeling. In
other words, they are not constant. If you've made a mistake, the best thing
you can do is to recognize it, apologize, and make a game plan for avoiding it
in the future.
Do not allow your one mistake make you believe
or think you don't have what it takes to achieve your goals. Maybe you did not
do well last time and your last result was not good enough as a student, this
doesn't mean you're not capable of turning your act around and becoming one of
the best in your class.
Do not wallow in self-pity, or the pity and
sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior — they can
only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself,
others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about
yourself put up positive and I can do it altitude, about your future, and about
your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to
others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your
growth in a positive direction.
The
act of confidence you put up on a thing will always determine how successful
you can become on it. Never give up, even if you have tried before and failed
does not mean you can’t succeed. Remember failure is only fulfilled you your
life when you quit.
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